I wonder how I stand where I stand. I named it sacrificed. You
call a bitter pill to swallow. There’s so much to say and creates many confusions.
Rest, I let you guys to decide. Unfolding, revealing confessing bad impact of
system. I end up, black n white all experiences, societal norms, gender roles. Gender roles defined, by society, women are
responsible of home chores, on other hand men are bread winner.
Islam present same picture. Since, women are weak physically,
hence, Men should be responsible of earning. I REPAET HERE, WORD “Responsible”,
means take as duty, and fulfil it by hook and crook. For women, it’s flexible
law. It’s not her duty. Rather to create confusion, should go-ahead.
Systems are made to make you comfort. Girls are supposed to
leave her own parents house, as to make her own family. Here is beginning, of
new family system. She has to deal with new ventures, get experience. After
having babies, and when her children get in university, she somehow, considered
experienced women. But wait, story is not net yet finished.
Hit and trails, fighting and many others makes this simple
life, even more complicated. Life is more smooth, if society realized, helping,
caring, sharing and responsibilities are go side-by-side. Women supposed to do
all chores, despite having babies, despite doing jobs. Because that’s what are
taught by elders to children, and what family are trying to build. I am not denying
the fact chores are responsibility of women.
TV commercials teaching children, Sharing is caring, and “Jaga do ge
to jaga bane gi”.
Lessons are taught but not
practice. Eventually, Unstable society are born. TV commercials are trying to
give positive picture unlike dramas. How to become better person, If Son helps
his mother in chores, if Son do laundry with mother, if wife do job with
husband, husband wear iron scorch shirt with sweater in office.
Joint system is entirely opposite
to what it supposed to be. On other
hands, it mainly caused of un-happy family. Where you are bond to do all
house-hold chores, without knowing the fact, it’s not responsibility of women. Joint-
family system is inherited from Indian culture. Where women have to perform all
house duties. Where husband has to give
salary to his mom. Islam is not what we trying to confuse with joint family
system. Islam is very humbled religion. Even no religion in world to taught, to
hurt yourself, just to please everyone. It’s a society that, decided what to
do, what not do. No religion gives the back of this system.
Many gets offend, after reading
half of this. My point is not to prompt neutral system and to leave parents. Point
is to realize, to embrace the facts, which shouldn’t be part of society. Before
marriage, me and my husband, decided that we buy everything on our own, and don’t
become a burden on our family. But we end up, mendhi less function, but got
stuff for my room only as Jehaz. Later, I confess, I will for sure, gift my
daughter, at least what serve her room best.
Islam is what has practice by Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). To make it clear how to run
life smooth. To marry widow, to marry not a good looking girl and many more.
What we read in Quran is practice by him. Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) used to help his wives in daily chores, wash own
clothes.
"The
best among you are those who behave best toward their wives. I am the best
among you toward his wives. The best among you is the one who is the kindest to
his wife and the worst among you is the one who treats his wife badly."
Nutshell, bearing old parents after marriage is
responsibility of man. Same hand, single daughter can take her parents after marriage
too. Should prompt things which are beneficial
of healthy society. Healthy society, to
give rights to wife, as it’s her designated right by Islam. No religion force
women, she has to obey everyone except her own wish. No religion prompts to
live life with husband’s brothers, as we many confused with women doing job
with male and field. Society never said,
men also do same. Job is duty. I am not saying, men left all his relationships.
It’s an opinion, to give space, I am repeating a word, “Space”, prompt separate
portions, on same house. It demolished, morally wrong-doing, and provoke healthy
society. Healthy mind develops.
Note: Based on random thoughts. No offense. J
